ok, so I get this call this morning from a “Friend” Said “Friend” is 46yrs old, was married 20yrs ago,, divorced and has no children, doesn’t have a full time steady job, lives in a “hotel” and works for temporary agencies, basically living moment to moment, never knowing if he will have enough money to stay at the hotel that is living at. He has a piece of crap car that doesn’t run half the time, and he walks every where, the only bill he consistantly pays is his cell phone, so that he can call the very few friends he has, & so they temp agencies can call him so he can work as a waiter, doing catering jobs. He brags about all these teaching positions he can be working at yet he “Chooses” to work for temp agencies and get eviction notices and such. To me this seems a little off balance, if you could be making a steady paycheck living in a steady apt, getting a good used car to get you where you need to be, basically STABILITY, the things that adults use everyday. This “Friend” has never been able to hold down a steady job, while he was married to his wife she bought him a tanning salon business so that he could hold a job, then he ran the business in the ground, by cheating on his wife and sleeping with his clients. She divorced him, and he has drifted, ever since she cut him off financially. He has been going to college off and on for over 25yrs and still works temp agencies as a waiter for larger catering jobs in St. Louis. He lives one temp job to another and gets evicted from apt after apt so now he lives in the efficiencies hotels, that you pay by the night or the week. He claims to be a famous photographer, and yet takes horrific pictures of what he calls “models”, the pictures are terrible, and he has yet to get paid for anything he has taken, I know of one couple that refused to pay for the engagement pictures, and they told friends that were going to call him and have their pictures taken, then told him they would have to get back with him on a time, and just never called back. I have shown a friend of mine that lives in San Francisco, who has a huge photography studio he takes rescue dog pictures and makes a fortune, and going portraite’s of dogs, he looked at my “friends” photos and just shook his head, he said, he doesn’t have the “eye” for taking pictures, the photos aren’t good because they aren’t good situations, the lighting is wrong, he definitively doens’t use an aperture meter to measure the light before he takes the photos. It’s simple to use and makes or breaks the picture.
So on to the next fumy thing, this same “friend” is back to giving me advise on how my children are living their lives and how basically everything is my fault, I enabled them, I spoiled them, and that if they fail in life it will be my fault. My children & myself are bipolar, I have been on meds for 10 yrs and my daughter is getting her therapist situated and getting on her meds. My “Friend” says bipolar isn’t for real, you can take the meds but after a couple of years you won’t need them any longer. LOL So for a unemployed, 46yrs old, unmarried man with no children, is throwing out parenting advise, psychiatric advise, & he is an all around knowledgeable guy when it comes to life experience, but then again he should know, his life is like a 60′s flower child of Charles Manson, live free like you want do as you want, don’t let the man take over, live day to day, no responsibilities but you……….that is my “friend” I think its probably a good idea to “take yet another break from him. He didn’t mention this girl that he swears he has with this woman, the little girl is 13 and my “friend” doesn’t even really know if the girl is his or not but has called her gotten in touch with her promised to have her college tuition, promised to pay for her to have an Ipad, for the last three yrs, all this WITHOUT a paternity test. He called today and not one word was mentioned about this little girl…….I believe the paternity test came back negative for him, and I am SOOOOOOOOOO glad, the last thing this little girl needs is a broke, unmarried, non committed, irresponsible man. She has a father figure that has been in her life and he is stable has a steady job, committed to her, and there is stability in her life, I am glad that this little girl has someone stable in her life, and that my “friend” is lacking in every single one of those category.
On to how I am doing, my friend says I always talk about me, well my, its my blog so I can lol My teeth are healing up really fast, still no pain, and my Doc appointment he was really impressed and most of my stitches have fallen out, and he said the bone has dropped and almost finished dropping in the back where the molars were, the holes are almost closed up, so he said about a month everything should be smoothed and complete healed, then just wait till the first week of Jan to get my dentures fitted and then get them, and get used to them lol
My son, still lying, still not calling, and I am still extremely disappointed in him. I can’t begin to put into words how he has hurt me and the level of disappointment he has given me. Lying, manipulation, there is no need for it from a grown man. I won’t tolerate it from a person off the street, or a family member. He will have to learn about life the hard way, no college, and he didn’t want to be around family, so, he will have to work 10x harder because he will have no help. The best thing I can do for him is let him be himself or who he thinks he wants to be for now, and let him choose his path.
I am going to get ready for bed
Peace, Love , & Happiness
Nicole
