I have this is “gift” I like to call it. I let friends, & my children dig themselves into a holes with what ever story they decided to start bullshitting me with. I let them RUN like the wind with what they “think” they are trying to get over on me. I let them tell me what they feel I am doing wrong as a person. I don’t just sit back and let them have all their say I participate in this wonderful”debate” I let them go on and on till they think they have wore me down, then I proceed to point out all their fault, sometimes I just blatantly point them out, other times I just reference their problems as an example of someone else, so basically if they call me and proceed to start picking a fight or try to get me agitated……………wrong I LIVE for these days. lol
Here is a comparison, I caught my son lying about something so I called him on it, he lives in AK, he screamed and yelled at me, and hung up the phone, which i am sure made him feel better, all i know is I obvious made my point & touched a nerve and he was through defending himself because, well when you lie you loose that ability. So then he did the most mature thing he could do, he “De-friended” on facebook…..this is from a 22yr old rebellious liar that caught by his Mom. I have a friend who is 46yrs old, that called to pick a fight and i busted him on many of things, and he didn’t like how the conversation was going so he told he was fixing supper and had to go, then a week later “De=friended ” me on Facebook. LMAO This defriending thing ills me, its like “Here take that” like Facebook is life altering. LOL awwwwwwwwww I need to go to kill myself cause they de friended me on a social networking site. lmao Seriously is this how life is now, that your friend wil implode your world if they are not friends with you on facebook anymore. I;m gonna share a little info with you and them if they read , which I know they do by actions that happens. lol
Here is the deal, I have a wonderful husband, great fury ids, and a great life, and great friends to spend it with.. I enjoy the new friends I make friends with Facebook, and some I have made locally and met for lunch and have a great times because we have so much in common.
My son and my friend de friend me so I cannot see what is going on in my sons life, and what isn’t going on in my friends like, plain and simple. My friend can tell me he is some big time photographer in St. Louis, I have a few contacts from a photographer in San Fransisco, no one in the Metro St. Louis area i the photography community never heard of my friend. I even talked to a gal that was doing a charity event to see if she would do an event for on of my chronic illness’s, & I asked her about the photographer she used, because my tells me she hired him. She tells me she uses a Photography corp out of Los Angeles, mainly because she is in the Female MMA business, (Mixed Martial arts) so she uses professionals from the west coast, and when she asked my friends name she said she never heard of him. again, much like my son this 46yr old lied, not a big surprise, he makes fun of other friends that have had the same job for almost 25yrs because they haven’t traveled the US like he did. They also have never missed a car payment, a house payment and have never worried about if they are going to eat or have the things they need on a daily basis. Everyone that is right in the world its called stability, & majority of people on the planet use this theory, & its not an odd concept. However, for these two…..the lies between lies and real life are blurred, and they will never succeed at life continue living like this. in fact life will pass them up and before they know it they are old, alone and all their friends have grown kids and are able to go on vacations and do things they always wanted to do because they didn’t lie, and they made the choice to decide to grown up and become an adult not just “AGE” For my son, he is always has a room in our home and always will no questioned asks, however he knows there are rules, when you live with other people, its called respect for them. My friend he is a drifter and won’t amount to much of anything, because at this point he hasn’t as of yet and had may opportunities, he can’t commit to anything in life general, he finds i,t entirely to restricting to his freestyle life style, being broke, never knowing if he has a job from week to week, he will never meet a woman (that isn’t on a truckload of medications) that will put up with a lifestyle like he lives, most of the time he can’t even get a date, his arrogance he puts off, leaves no room for discussion, woen walk away from him laughing, because he in his mind, thinks he is everything he isn’t or will never be, Rich, successful, polite(genuinely), and he won’t stop talking about how GREAT he is, he still uses come on lines when he talks to women, him posing as a photographer, he will find a vulnerable woman, low self esteem and build her up she goes out with him, he takes some photos of her, and then she sees through him, because what he doesn’t realize is, that is he is fake, and it comes out after not having to spend much time with them, as they say your true colors show, it never takes long to show people who you really are. A friend doesn’t call another friend to brag about how well they are doing or they have a chance to do certain things but isn’t doing them, and then to finish up the conversation giving you parental advise, when he can’t stay in a commited relationship long enough to even have kids himself. No kids but yet dishing out advise about what a crappy parent i am. I LIVE for these conversations and & record them and let my friends listen to what he says, they are blown away at his arrogance. i’m like yeah…..over 45 divorced over 20yrs hasn’t been in a long committed relationship since then, and no kids…………………….one of my friends said as one of my single friends says he has a HUGE RED FLAG over him. No one will touch him, no job, no car, getting evicted, and living for the second is great if your 2yrs old, not 46. LMAO We all laughed. One of my friends husbands said that guy needs a good country ass whoopin to get him back into the real world. he is acting like a kid in grade school, no responsibilities, he isn’t much of a man at all, other of my friends husbands agreed. Real men he said take responsibility for themselves, and their families, but he couldn’t manage to be man enough to get a family to take care of. He said inhis book this friend of mine is a waste of someone taking in oxygen, that someone else could be using and being a real man.
People say women are harsh, those men that night cut straight to the chase they have no respect for him, & his life advise coming from someone with no goal in life. i told them his Mother was mentally ill, and that i believe that it is setting on him, my shrink says it could be that he has always had the mental illness that his mother had, it is progressing now and is getting worse, and since he believes that we all have it in us to “Fix” ourselves, that we go to doctors and get medications that dont’ work on the problem, you just have to be stronger than your affliction. Wow, wouldn’t it be great if it were that easy, & the fact what it is realy about him not turing into his mother with her mental illness, that is his biggest fear and thus he lives the lifestyle of someone with a mental illness that won’t seek help, any psychiatrist said that straight up. he can deny it but he lives it and others that know family members and friends that have untreated mental illness’s can see through him instantly. He can’t payhis rent, but he is quick to point fingers at you for things you do wrong, or he thinks you do wrong, and he will be relentless not letting up til he feels he has degraded you enough to his own sick satisfaction. then move onto something else. Oh to go back to his photography skils, he took a picture of my family, at the time he lived in the area so i framed it, friends would come over and tell us the “family” looked like it should be on a a cD cover for band. i said yeah everyone tells us that, it doesn’t look like we wanted it to at all, but he was the “creative one” we didn’t get a choice on what pictures we wanted taken, what kind of photographer doesn’t listen to his clients, & what they want, its not about what he wants, that isn’t what they are paying him for. We didn’t pay he owed me a couple favors so I called them in. What’s funny is all 3 of us have copies, and none of us know where they are lol Cause we sure as hell weren’t putting them out for people to see. lol
I believe i am finished ranting, its a chilly day here in Southern TN, but sunny so hopefully it will warm up, friends and us are hoping to do thanksgiving dinner, his dad owns a ton of those rental cabins in Pigeon forge/DollyWood area, Johnson city , Tn area and we are going to stay up there and have thanksgiving up there, 3 hot tubs, a heated pool, with a beautiful view, all perks of having his dad owning them, our friend got the biggest one with all the perks. His dad was up last night we talked to him he said after football he was goig to put our friend (his son) & my hubby to work for a day so my friend and i could have a girls day on him.so i am looking forward to a holiday for once in my life.
Peace love and Happiness
Nicole
